The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives star Jessi Ngatikaura made some startling confessions about husband Jordan Ngatikaura including how he blackmailed her after her affair, what they lied about on screen and more. During the Wednesday, November 19, episode of "The Viall Files" podcast, Jessi, 33, opened up about her relationship with Jordan and shared that she faced similar issues of emotional abuse in her first marriage. "My muscle memory is me being used to being yelled at. I remember when I was first married, there were really hard moments," Jessi said about former husband Zach.