Gerry Turner's Late Wife Did Not Disclose a 'Big' Health Diagnosis to Him

Source: MEGAGerry Turner's memoir was released on November 4.

Gerry Turner has a lot to say about his past loves, especially Theresa Nist, in his new memoir.

In Golden Years: What I've Learned From Love, Loss and Reality TV, which hit bookshelves on November 4, the first lead of The Golden Bachelor wrote about his late wife, Toni Turner, who died of a bacterial infection in 2017 at the age of 64."Suddenly, shockingly, out of nowhere, the love of my life, my partner in all things for the last forty three years, was gone," he wrote.

After Toni's death, Gerry found out she had been diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes, leaving him "traumatized" since she "had not only hidden but apparently completely ignored.""She'd never mentioned this big diagnosis to me ... and, as far as I could tell, she'd never followed through with treatment," he added.

Gerry Turner Found Love Again at His Late Wife's Funeral

Source: ABCHis alleged ex claimed they dated for 10 months.

While on the show, Gerry said he had not had a serious relationship since Toni's death. However, a woman named Carolyn claimed he and the reality TV star dated for 10 months and even lived together in his home on Big Long Lake in Hudson, Ind. The ex alleged he left her after she gained weight.

Reacting to the woman's claims in The Hollywood Reporter story, he wrote in his memoir, "There were many untruths that I won't take the time or energy to refute."Gerry added, "We had a connection, but I pursued the relationship far too quickly." After he asked the woman to move in with him "before [they] really had a chance to get to know one another," he reportedly realized they were not compatible on "several levels." Thus, it led to their "emotional breakup."

Gerry Turner Was the 'Easiest to Manipulate' on 'The Golden Bachelor'

Source: ABCGerry Turner was the lead of 'The Golden Bachelor' Season 1.

In his memoir, Gerry quipped he was "the easiest to manipulate" during his time on The Golden Bachelor, recalling the time Theresa feuded with some of the contestants."At the time, I thought of her as innocently trying to be a good companion, manipulated by the others to overshare. Naturally talkative, she can really put words together!" he said of his ex-wife.

Gerry Turner Thought Joan Vassos 'Could Be the One'

Source: @joan_vassos/InstagramJoan Vassos quit 'The Golden Bachelor' during week three due to a family emergency.

Instead of Theresa, Gerry could have ended up with Joan Vassos if only she had not left the show."I'd be lying if I said I wasn't crushed," he said of Joan's exit. "Here was a woman I really thought could be the One. It was very, very deflating."

Theresa Nist Was His Top Choice

Source: ABCGerry Turner and Theresa Nist got engaged during 'The Golden Bachelor' in November 2023.

According to Gerry, Theresa was his top choice "when [his] logical side took over.""But when my heart clamored for a voice, Leslie [Fima] became a true contender. Leslie or Theresa. Theresa or Leslie," he recalled. "I was pulled in two very different directions. My struggle was with safe and familiar versus exciting but risky."

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Conversations Gerry Turner Had With Theresa Nist Were 'Difficult'

Source: MEGAGerry Turner and Theresa Nist were only married for three months.

Although Gerry gave the final rose to Theresa, he eventually found communicating with her difficult."Her tone and delivery were the same whether she was talking about a problem at work or about picking up her morning smoothie," he wrote in Golden Years: What I've Learned From Love, Loss and Reality TV.

He had similar experiences during Theresa's hometown dates episode, prompting Garry to think her answers "felt rehearsed.""Her delivery was slow and deliberate. There's nothing wrong with thinking before you speak, but with Theresa it was as if she were running through a list of words until she hit on the one who thought would appeal to me," he continued.

Theresa Nist Made Gerry Turner Feel Like a Guest at Their Wedding

Source: ABCTheir marriage was televised in January 2024.

On January 4, 2024, Gerry and Theresa exchanged vows in a televised ceremony. While the event seemed perfect, he admitted he felt his then-wife had shut him out of his own wedding."I was getting worried that Theresa was more interested in the trappings of getting