I was a people pleaser for far too long, says Valerie Bertinelli Valerie Bertinelli has opened up about her new approach to life, insisting that she'll now prioritise her own needs. 11 September 2025 Valerie Bertinelli was a "people pleaser for far too long". Valerie Bertinelli used to be a people-pleaser The 65-year-old actress admits that ageing has led her to look at life, and her approach to it, in a totally different way. During an appearance on The Drew Barrymore Show, Valerie explained: "I had to turn 64 before I really caught on. I was that people pleaser for far too long.