Tell Me Lies star Tom Ellis is reflecting on his first marriage to Tamzin Outhwaite - and what he learned about himself in the relationship. When asked how he began to embrace and talk about his imperfections, Ellis, 46, said on the Wednesday, September 3, episode of the "How to Fail" podcast, "Life hadn't gone the way I thought it would, basically." "I was out of a marriage that didn't work. I think you learn a lot through that process," he continued. "You have to go through a lot of soul searching. You have to kind of be very honest with yourself.