Jamie Lynn Sigler reflected on her first marriage to AJ Discala in new book, And So It Is... A Memoir of Acceptance and Hope. "AJ was ten years older than me and had an air of confidence about him," Sigler, 44, wrote in the memoir, published on Tuesday, May 5. "He was tall, with dark hair and eyes, handsome, and incredibly charismatic." She added, "He was one of those people who could strike up a conversation with anyone and make them feel like they'd known him forever. AJ was a natural flirt, but not in a way that felt romantic or inappropriate.