Bethenny Frankel too afraid to date Bethenny Frankel is "afraid" to date after being single for so long. 12 August 2025 Bethenny Frankel is "afraid" to date. Bethenny Frankel is too scared to date The Real Housewives of New York City star - who has been married twice and previously dated Tom Villante and was engaged to Paul Bernon for three years until May 2024 - can't "bring herself" to start looking for love again because the bad experiences she has had in the past has made her too "hesitant" to put herself back out there. She said in a TikTok video: "I'm afraid to date.