Instagram/Melissa Auf der Maur & Co Music Melissa Auf der Maur recalls joining Hole after tragedy. Read an excerpt from her new 90s rock memoir on Courtney Love's turbulent 1994. April 6, 2026 AceShowbiz - Melissa Auf der Maur became a member of the band Hole in the summer of 1994, a period marked by tragedy for the group. That spring, Courtney Love's husband, Nirvana frontman Kurt Cobain, had died by suicide, and shortly afterward, the band's bassist, Kristen Pfaff, passed away.